Hadith 4- Anger Management
It is related by Abu Hurairah that the Messenger of Allah said:
“He is not a wrestler who overpowers his rival, but he who keeps himself under control when roused to anger.” (Bukhari and Muslim).
Commentary: It shows that the most dangerous enemy of man, against whom he should always remain on guard, is his own self, and to keep it in check when one is provoked is not in everybody’s power. Hence, a real wrestler or strong man is he who retrains himself when enraged and does not do a thing that may be wrong or undesirable.
We, further, learn from it that what Allah and the Prophet demand of us is not that we never get angry—it is natural tendency from which even the Prophets were not exempt—but that we do not lose control over ourselves when provoked and avoid behaving in a way that is repugnant to the spirit of servitude to Allah.
[Maulana Muhammad Manzoor Nomani. Ma’ariful Hadith, Volume 1, Pg. 380. “Book of Manners,” Darul-Ishaat, Karachi, 2002.]
Different methods given in Ahadith for anger management are:
1] “…and when anyone of you is feeling angry, he should keep quit…” (Musnad Ahmed and Tabarani).
2] “…he should sit down if he is standing –continued below
3] If anger subsides (as a result of it), well and good, and if it does not, he should lie down.” (Musnad Ahmed and Tirmidhi)
4] “…when anyone of you is seized with anger, let him perform wudu (ablution that is performed before Praying).” (Abu Dawood)
5] I have also heard that we should drink water. Due to time constraint I could not find the specific hadith about drinking water! If you can find it please leave it in Comment.
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Hadith # 4.